Since August 1 I have used this blog to track my steps and observations regarding manifesting a man for a wonderful relationship. What I really like about doing this is that it has made me meditative and mindful of love and its possibilties on a daily basis. It has also made me check my own behavioral patterns and examine what I might do to remain open to that possibility.
I think the bulk of 2007 has been transformative for me in this area. What I thought about letting a man into my life six months ago and how I feel about it now are very different. Intrusion then vs. readiness now. I feel like I'm ready to take it on, all of it. I think that's obvious in how I am wearing my heart on my sleeve in this public forum.
So often in our society people make snap judgments about us based on whether we're "attached." I used to bristle at this. Now I realize that it does say something about us. There are so many marriages out there that make me cringe, but the people in them often feel safe. They want others to feel safe, too.
I have been creating my own form of safe living and it has been mostly good. I live a rich life. But now there is something to be said for sharing the wealth. I needed the better part of this year to learn this, to admit it even.
There, I said it.
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Nancy--
In the movie "Shall We Dance?" (I think that's the name of it) with Richard Gere, J Lo and Susan Sarandon, Sarandon's comment about marriage was one of the most memorable things about this delightful movie.
At one point, she thinks her husband is having an affair, when he's actually out taking dancing lessons, a secret he's keeping because of his crush on Lopez. While pondering the whole meaning of marriage during a casual conversation at a bar, she said the most wonderful aspect of marriage was that you're bearing witness to one another's lives.
That really resonated for me--to have that special someone in your life who sees you for all you are, both bad and good, and bears witness to all you go through, to the extent of even validating your existence.
That's the best argument I've heard for marriage, ever.
I love that thought. Thanks for sharing it. I think I know what movie I'll be renting soon ...
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